For your self, for your choices - sometimes you can’t put it into words...
Nevertheless deep down you do know the answers. Anthropologist and psychologist Alberto
Villoldo tells of when he was in the Amazonian jungle as it got dark and he had wandered
off the trail. He realised he was lost -
Then he realised that being lost was a feeling - a fearful one at that. So he re-labelled
his situation with one of facts: he didn’t know where he was.
This made him look around in a different way. He saw a stream and knew his camp was
down river. So he walked downstream, found the river, and got a lift from some ‘indigenous
people in a canoe with a powerful outboard motor’ - marvellous - and travelled swiftly
back to camp. (*Article: Cygnus Review, July 2010)
This is a powerful metaphor for points where choices have to be made. Here’s how
it worked for me (Faith) when I felt lost and stuck..
Reframe the unresourceful state: ‘lost and stuck’ becomes ‘don’t know where I am’
- a statement of fact that means the environment changes to one where there might
Decide where you want to be: where is your ‘camp’? Define it in ten words. If you
can’t (I couldn’t) it doesn’t matter: you know what you mean and you will feel it
somewhere in your body. Sense it. The best I could come up with at that point was
‘I want to be sure of my work.’ And I knew what that felt like.
Now keep your senses sharp including your gut feeling. Search for the ‘streams’ in
the moments of every day by sensing whether what you are doing, or planning to do,
runs towards the river, that itself runs swiftly and powerfully to your camp.